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Thoughtful, therapist-informed reads about the things that affect how we feel, function, connect and take care of ourselves.
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Teen · Rest
When Nighttime Is the Only Time That Feels Like Yours
You know you should go to sleep. You stay up anyway, because it's the only stretch of the day nobody's asking anything of you.
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Teen · Mind
You Don't Have to Start Homework the Second You Get Home
Going straight from the school bell into your desk chair isn't discipline. It's usually just a way of doing worse work for longer.
7 MIN READ
Kids + Families · Rest
Why One Bedtime Routine Doesn't Work for Every Child
The routine that settles one child can wind another one up. The fit matters more than the formula.
7 MIN READ
Adult · Mind
Why Sunday Night Feels Different From Every Other Night
Nothing has happened yet. That's exactly the problem — Sunday evening's particular dread isn't about anything real yet, which makes it strangely hard to argue with.
6 MIN READ
Teen · Connection
When You Get Home and Don't Want Anyone to Talk to You
You're not being rude. You've just used up your entire supply of talking to people for the day.
7 MIN READ
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Teen · Life
You Probably Don't Need a Digital Detox
The all-or-nothing version of fixing your phone habits usually doesn't survive past day three. There's a more realistic way in.
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Teen · Life
How to Make Your Phone Less Exhausting
You don't need to quit it. You need it to stop shouting at you all day.
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The Comparison Hangover
You put your phone down twenty minutes ago and you still feel worse about yourself than you did before you picked it up.
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Teen · Mind
What Actually Helps When Your Brain Feels Too Full
Not another list of coping skills. An explanation of why the few that actually work, work.
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Teen · Life
Why You Reach for Your Phone When You're Tired
It's not weak willpower. Tired brains want the easiest possible source of stimulation, and your phone is built to be exactly that.
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Teen · Body
Moving Your Body Without Making It About How You Look
Movement can be for how it feels, not for what it does to the way you look. That shift changes almost everything.
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Kids + Families · Body
When Your Child Needs to Move Before They Can Settle
For some kids, stillness isn't the first step toward calm — it's the last one, after enough movement to get there.
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Teen · Life
Your Phone Isn't the Enemy
It's also the way you talk to your friends, the thing that makes a bus ride bearable, and sometimes, honestly, too much.
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