Selfey Journal
Ideas for taking better care of yourself.
Thoughtful writing on the science, psychology and everyday practice of caring for yourself — across mind, body, rest, connection, joy and life.
Therapist-informed perspectives on self-care, wellbeing and everyday life.
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The Exhausting Job of Constantly Evaluating Yourself
It's not vanity. It's a near-constant background process, and it's genuinely tiring.
Read story →Why Movement Changes Your Mood Before It Changes Your Fitness
The mental shift from a walk or a stretch shows up in minutes. The physical one takes months. Here's what's actually happening in between.
4 min read
The Case for Connection as Self-Care
Rest and boundaries get the spotlight. The evidence says other people are just as load-bearing.
3 min read
Pleasure Is Not a Prize You Earn
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Life· In reviewThe Fastest Self-Care Is Taking Something Away
Most self-care advice tells you to add a routine. Sometimes the more honest move is removing one.
For adults · 3 min read
RestWhen Nighttime Is the Only Time That Feels Like Yours
You know you should go to sleep. You stay up anyway, because it's the only stretch of the day nobody's asking anything o…
For teens · 3 min read
- Mind
You Don't Have to Start Homework the Second You Get Home
Going straight from the school bell into your desk chair isn't discipline. It's usually just a way of doing worse work for longer.
For teens · 3 min read
ConnectionWhen You Get Home and Don't Want Anyone to Talk to You
You're not being rude. You've just used up your entire supply of talking to people for the day.
For teens · 3 min read
LifeYou Probably Don't Need a Digital Detox
The all-or-nothing version of fixing your phone habits usually doesn't survive past day three. There's a more realistic …
For teens · 3 min read
LifeHow to Make Your Phone Less Exhausting
You don't need to quit it. You need it to stop shouting at you all day.
For teens · 3 min read
LifeThe Comparison Hangover
You put your phone down twenty minutes ago and you still feel worse about yourself than you did before you picked it up.
For teens · 3 min read
- Life
Why You Reach for Your Phone When You're Tired
It's not weak willpower. Tired brains want the easiest possible source of stimulation, and your phone is built to be exactly that.
For teens · 3 min read
BodyMoving Your Body Without Making It About How You Look
Movement can be for how it feels, not for what it does to the way you look. That shift changes almost everything.
For teens · 3 min read
RestWhy One Bedtime Routine Doesn't Work for Every Child
The routine that settles one child can wind another one up. The fit matters more than the formula.
For parents & caregivers · 3 min read
BodyWhen Your Child Needs to Move Before They Can Settle
For some kids, stillness isn't the first step toward calm — it's the last one, after enough movement to get there.
For parents & caregivers · 3 min read
LifeYour Phone Isn't the Enemy
It's also the way you talk to your friends, the thing that makes a bus ride bearable, and sometimes, honestly, too much.
For teens · 4 min read