Reflection · Connection

Who Feels Like Home?

A quieter way to think about your people — not who is in your network, but who you can actually be yourself around.

Time: 10 minutes
Access: Members
For: adults, teens
Print: A4 · US Letter

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What this helps with

Who can I be completely myself with?

Who it's for

adults, teens

About 10 minutes

Inside

One name is a real answer. So is none yet. Names can repeat, and someone can be right for one line and wrong for the others — that's normal, not a failure of the friendship.

Connection

Reflection

Who can I be completely myself with?

One name is a real answer. So is none yet. Names can repeat, and someone can be right for one line and wrong for the others — that's normal, not a failure of the friendship.

01
Who can I be quiet with?
No conversation required.
02
Who can I call when things are messy?
Before it's tidy enough to explain.
03
Who makes me laugh properly?
04
Who could I actually ask for help?
Practical help. A lift, an hour, a meal.
05
Who knew me before all this?
06
Who am I easiest around, without knowing why?

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